Dealing with a complex MLC and/or Wayward Wife #2

[LH19]

But we all know that until full detachment almost EVERY move has SOMETHING to do with her. At least until she is out of the house and not able to see it all first hand.

Just lay low for the remaining days you have left together.

This too is why I seem to be so torn between the "mystery" and "tough love". I try, but can't see how any of my comments about her actions would actually 'hurt' the sitch. That's one reason I'm so drawn to it. I don't see the downside. She cheated (multiple times) and yes I'm hurt and mad while also being willing to move one all at the same time.

How do you think it will help?

Due to the experience of the board I will probably still stick to what you and AS have stated. "we both have individual stuff to work on before we can have that conversation".

This would be very smart on your part.

However, you have to remember that I might have went farther than most in bugging the house.

Didn't help your matter but certainly didn't seal your fate.

But it doesn't change the fact that I know there is some fear/regret/surprise going through her head about what she has done. That I want to capitalize on.

If you want to capitalize on it set her free to see if she can stand on her own.

Only that it might help affect her in getting help (IC) to discover from a 3rd party that this is fantasy land.

You would be shocked if you knew how man counselors will tell her that if she's not happy she should leave you.

I'm only trying to minimize her going down the rabbit hole farther and acknowledging that her actions are WAY OUT there. As she obviously believes she has a reason for the first PA (me and the R) but was surprised about her latest drunken action - doesn't seem to hurt the overall sitch. - correct again if I"m wrong. I'm a big 'debater' but I do take a lot of the advise. I'm just not good at taking it blindly. I need to understand how it helps/hurts.

OPEN THE CAGE DOOR PJ OPEN THE CAGE DOOR.