Not Sure Where This Is Going

[ovrrnbw]

You're going to have to remove all pressure, stop all pursuit for a long time. I've been doing this over a year, and it's funny how my perspective has changed. My wife told my ILY the other day for the first time in over a year. I was yearning for that for a long time, but in time, with work and changing the way I think and behave, it didn't matter so much anymore. It's going to take your W longer than it should to feel the lack of pressure and it's on you to respect her choice to split and follow through on your end by not trying to change her mind. So, quit pursuing her. This may be hard to hear right now, but at the moment she doesn't want you.

Your W is wayward. Read the WW sitches. They are all very similar. R2C will probably be along with some awesome links that you'll want to read and reread. I'm guessing your big city counselor is advising your wife to throw her morality to the wind, be free, and hohoho it all around town as a way to find her happiness. Don't worry about it. You can't control it. But interview a counselor in the future before hiring and find a fit. I wouldn't spend hundreds of dollars just to find out this counselor is a no-go.

Quit monitoring her, you already know she is cheating. You don't need to know any more. You're going to alone in your marriage for a while, if not forever. You can't control it, so don't worry about it. That's why you go GAL. Make your life a great one.

My W was detaching from me a year ago, only to come running back a million times when I finally started detaching. Good luck, keep posting.