I think you right, H is just looking for sympathy.
As for the temp check. I did like the “I failed. I think. Oh well. Move forward.” Made me smile with understanding. One thing, that is not a fail, think of it as a learning. You need to learn how to handle his temp check, that’s all that was, no fail involved. That is progress right there. Next time, I think you will be a little different.
Really good mindset Grace. Turn H over to God. Embrace life, standing, being single, detachment, and indifference - all of it fully embrace it. You decide and choose your life and your way. By the way, I can see what your basing this on, well done!
The house upgrades sound really good. Make it what you want.
For what it worth, and I know you know this, don’t worry about thinking about H and what he is doing, what his plans are for the future. I get that you just want to know because you want to know. You do get to a point where you don’t need, want, or care to know his plans. It does happen, try giving that to God also, let Him worry about H’s plans.
Along with kml, I think most LBS end up filing - to protect themselves, or the WAS just can’t be bothered or get their act together, or the LBS final has enough. Maybe a little of all three.
Myself, I am in the minority, W did the heavy lifting. I held on to “I would not divorce her”. However, here I am. How long would I have gone without filing, I’ll never know. I do think it would not have been forever; I could see a couple of more years though.
Have fun with the crocheting. Awesome idea!
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
