Love your goals! Yes, you need to live your life and not put it on hold because of H. Besides, the more you build the life you want, the better off you will be whether he returns or not.
As for the divorce question- I read somewhere that the majority of divorces were initiated by women. I don't think it's because a majority of women initiate breakups - I think more men do - but the WAS can't be bothered to do the hard paperwork of divorce, so it's often the LBS that finally has to file to protect themselves or to get closure.
