Thank you so much! I have had a chance to read through some of these. I know that I cannot fix H. He has to struggle on his own and discover that this affair with the OW will end up hurting him more than it will hurt her. I believe she is toying with his emotions and is keeping him around because he makes her feel good and vice versa.
I am doing some things to detach.... giving him his own space, not asking him where he is going or how long. He still shows he cares for me, but I know his heart and mind are on her.
I did break down and cry this weekend when I asked about the ongoing affair. I know his feelings for her will fade...just wish I knew how long it's going to take.
The hardest part for me is not saying ILY. Is this something I should stop saying to him? Thanks .
