I just kinda popped in and seen your question, I am new to your sitch but far from new to this mess.
If you do listen to anything, listen to this board, its a collection of been there done or doing that and it helped me personally far more than I can ever express.
Be careful with the kids, mine was about 5 at the time of BD and I was given about the best advice I can imagine looking back. Your 2 kids know, they know something is not right ... they also know they are 50% you ... and 50% her. No matter how batsh!t crazy she is you can not point out how bad/crazy she is because those kids are 50% her and will think .... well if she is a bad/crazy nut job then I must be too. Even when my son asked why ... I just told him, your mother and I are working on some things ... thats it ... take them out and make some memories because they already have a few that none of us would want them to have right>?
I am a solid .. what ... 5 1/2 out of BD, lived that nightmare for far to long, I am most proud of never speaking ill of her to my son. Your kids need you to be the rock, the parent they can run ot while she is off in the tunnel trying to figure out what move will get the most attention next ..... be the parent you have to be, do not at this point give them any information that is not appropriate ... and at 7-9 thats most of it ... buy ice cream, give em wet willies .. rememeber they only get one mom and maybe one day she can figure her stuff out and be that mom ... do not take that away from them.
Just my 25 cents.
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