We tend to put a fantasy in our heads and our expectations go through the roof when you have these deep conversations before you even meet a person. Your hope gets way too high that it will work.
Before knowing LL, like LH said, get to know the little surface things. Then you date, you talk some more, then slowly get into the heavy talks.
I got this feeling you spin up some sort of fantasy and big connections before you get to know them and that leaves you disappointed often.
I used to do that. I’ve certainly learned my lesson
