PJ, sounds like some good, sound advice from your IC. I wouldn't set a specific timeline to the sabbatical though, just take the time to recenter yourself and see how it goes. We all need to relearn to be happy alone before getting involved in relationships again even if they're limited to physical gratification. I think that's one thing most of us fear or feared after BD is the thought of being alone, maybe forever. Being alone can be a very good, healthy thing though. We need to relearn that we don't NEED someone in our lives to "complete us" (my IC absolutely hated that phrase!) Wanting someone is fine, needing them is not.
