I Was Jerk (Part 2)

[Ready2Change]

I believe this would be a good tool for you:

Sense- Observation (When you, I see….I hear…I read….
Thought (I believe….It seams to me…
Feelings
ANGER (I am frustrated…
SADNESS (I am disappointed…
FEAR (I am worried…
REGRET (I am sorry…
LOVE (I appreciate/understand…
Need (I want…What I propose ...I require… The response I would like to hear is.....
Consequence - My Future Response (If you choose not to….If you continue…

I started:

H" W, I have thought about our recent conversation. I need you to listen until I am done. Will you do this?"
W "ok?"

I appreciate that you told me the truth about what you said to S7.
I am frustrated that you are telling our kids things that are not true.
I am disappointed because I thought we had an agreement not to lie to our children.
I am worried about what and how we say things will effect them.

Can you fill in the rest?

Part of this process is interacting better with W.
I am sure you would have no problem doing this verbally, others might find it better to write a letter.