To bring this thread back. This weekend I started talking to this girl on Match and she came out and said she’s a WAW and she had wanted out for 5 years but waited for her daughter to graduate from school. Her words “ I usually don’t put my happiness first but I’m learning”.
Not sure how I feel about dating a self proclaimed WAW.
Well I guess she at least waited until the kids were out of the house. I think unless things have changed my X-SIL will end up doing this to her H. Poor guy probably has no clue.
I wouldn't be a fan of the WAW, and you obviously need to be on high alert for the red flags. Did she WAW cause the H was abusive or an alcoholic or just gave up on life??? Did she WAW because she was being selfish, emotionally regressing and typically symptoms of some of the WAW on here?
If your spidey senses are tingling just eject. Just my 2 cents.
H(37) W(35) D8, D5, S3 T20, M13 BD 8/31/18 EA Discovered 9/13/18 Mediation 10/3/18 W files for D 10/12/18 W moves out 11/10/18 EA confirmed 12/25/18 D Final 1/10/19
Ironic, this is what my exW did. In fact we held the high school grad party for son on Saturday and she dropped the bomb on Monday. Can't be more clear about it than that.
BS Gawd I hope you're kidding and think in some part you are but know that you're really not - being hot is #1 with you - that's very clear and actually is okay - as long as you don't chose a long term partner using that metric.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
The dr is 5'8 fit no kids and dark hair like Demi Moore so I am getting there!
No kids? I thought she had a son.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Lol.....I thought I had missed a new woman or something there for a minute.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
A book that I have recommended on here suggests that I man should define clear boundaries in what he wants in a woman. Once this is defined he should then look to find an attractive woman within these restrictions. I personally wouldn't go after a WAW unless maybe it was for the reason of physical abuse or addiction on the S part.
H(37) W(35) D8, D5, S3 T20, M13 BD 8/31/18 EA Discovered 9/13/18 Mediation 10/3/18 W files for D 10/12/18 W moves out 11/10/18 EA confirmed 12/25/18 D Final 1/10/19
Is she actually a WAW? Or just the one that left? There's a difference.
If she left because her husband was abusive for instance, or had a serious addiction or infidelity or gambling problem that they wouldn't address, she's not really a WAW in the sense that we mean here.
If she went to therapy for a long time with her spouse and they just couldn't work it out, she may or may not be a WAW>
If she just was "unhappy" with an apparently good spouse and didn't try to save the marriage - yeah, she's a WAW and best avoided.
