Dealing with a complex MLC and/or Wayward Wife

[ovrrnbw]

I stopped posting in here b/c I think you completely ignored what I was saying and maybe you'll continue to do that, but I had to point one more thing you said that is crazy:

but completely open to something physical <-- 2 consenting adults. Admittedly I feel a little guilty thinking/planning for such actions this soon. That being said; I also feel that with a WW that has completely disrespected me so much recently, it also feels like I'm just grabbing a hold of some self respect.

So why not just file for divorce? Why not wait until that is final? I don't agree with dating while married/separated/going through divorce but I understand why people do. In your case, you're going to have casual sex with an OW to get a hold of self respect? I just want to cringe. That's insecurity, not self respect.

I believe that I still do want reconciliation but because of the complexity of this situation I'm wondering if it's even possible from her perspective.

And then one sentence later you post this. If you sleeping with another woman is what it takes to get your W back, that's a very bad sign. Do you want to fix things or no?

As none of her EA/PA's are far enough a long to take on this role.

Are you sure you would know this?

I think you should take time to yourself and work on you. Be happy with you. Become strong independent you. Take care of your kids. Do the right things and create new habits. Good luck.