4 years pieced and still a work in progress!

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I'm glad you updated your thread. As time goes on, we LBS's hopefully start to open our eyes and let go of our fear of "losing" our cheating spouses. As you said earlier, they were already gone. The downside to that is there are some posters here who decide they're done. I don't blame them either.

The "paving the way home" thing has really changed a lot for me. My view initially was to be the happy puppy dog who'd do anything when given some attention, but as time passes and as we work on detachment and getting through our emotions we can grow stronger and eventually act stronger. It's so tough reading the same stories over and over. It's even tougher to go re-read your own story and cringe at yourself. I haven't done that yet (b/c I'm fearful). True "paving the way home" is really letting go, not fighting, not getting mad or sad or annoyed at the things your WAS does.

Anyways, you know it [censored] that your friend told her friend all this info. I guess you have to qualify things even as adults. My stupid in laws lied to my face, telling me they wouldn't tell my W things I told them. Well, that was just another lesson learned, another strawberry on my knee from when I fell down. So anyways, hope all is as well as it can be!