Uncertain of What I Have (Thread 7)

[Bo562]

Bo, this stuff is certainly not easy! I think you handled that convo quite well though. I agree with you that this is not the time to share feelings with her. She's more likely to use it against you then she is to applaud you for it.

Thanks. Didn’t feel like it at the time, though. Could I have done some things better? Yes, but I’m glad I at least kept some semblance of my wits about me.

But yeah—what incentive do I have to share feelings with her? I’m treating feelings as something like ‘spousal privilege’ (I know it’s a legal concept, but still)—she wants to be my spouse or ‘partner,’ then she gets insight into my mental makeup.

You’re exactly right. She is more likely to use it against me—so why offer it up to her?

Just keep up your validation and try not to let it affect your PMA.

Thanks—trying, and the validation is a work in progress.

PMA’s been okay, all things considered. Exercise helps—went for a 25-minute run yesterday, and I felt great. Will try to work in a swim today.