Quick update here. Minimal contact with W since I've last posted, all initiated by her. She left town this past weekend for a show we were supposed to go to together. I ended up at a music festival seeing way more of our favorite bands - definitely GAL.
W put a hotel on my credit card and transferred me the money, she texted me to tell me about it...I have no idea why she wouldn't just put it on her own card. I'm assuming she went w/ a girlfriend, and this was potentially some kind of test? I don't want to read into it, but i'm pretty sure this was intentional. She never uses my card for anything (only got her one for the perks), and has her own credit cards.
So I fly back home in 2 days. Still nervous, but feeling like a much more confident me. I'm really curious if anyone has advice about how to deal with physical contact. I know that I shouldn't initiate at all, but if she initiates physical contact - i.e. holding hands or more, how do I handle this? I've been reading here that I shouldn't embrace too much if we hug, and treat that as if it were an acquaintance, which I can handle. I'm sure if she stays at the house that we'll end up having at least a small amount of time together, watching a show or movie. Is this okay, and is more casual physical contact okay or even good, i.e. resting hands, arms on each other, or should I be keeping my distance - sitting farther apart or on a different couch? I really want to be prepared so that I can do this naturally when we're together.
Last edited by Jamine; 03/26/1902:19 PM.
Me 36, W 32 M 3 yrs, T 7 yrs 1st BD Aug 18 2nd BD Feb 19 EA w/ ex Aug 18 potential EA Feb 19 Trial Separation 3/2/19