PJ... I have been apart from my H for almost eight months now. Recently I have started "dating" but really just meeting people. I agree that two consenting adults should be able to do what they want but the implication is that both people know what they are consenting to. I think if you are honest with someone (i.e. I am not looking for an R...this is purely about meeting my physical/sexual needs) and they are still agreeable then go for it. Of course, if you do want to reconnect with your wife, then you will likely have to explain OP's involvement in your life so keep that in mind as well. I think that is what other's have mentioned - the possibility of making a complicated situation even more complicated.
In my sitch, I didn't even think about dating until I was sure in my own mind that reconnection is not in the cards and that I am okay with it. And I emphasize that I had to be sure in MY mind (and heart). TBH, I did not expect to be getting back out there this soon but now that I have, I know the timing is good for me and I am not doing more damage to myself or to anyone else. My conscience is clear and I have enjoyed meeting the guys that I have met and have made at least one new friend out of it. I don't think I would feel the same way if I was still thinking about my STBXH. Anyway...totally your call, of course. I would just be careful getting someone else involved at this stage who might be looking for more than just a hook up.
