Dealing with a complex MLC and/or Wayward Wife

[P_Jam]

PJ,


Just know that if recon is your ultimate goal then this will not help your cause and will more then likely hurt your cause.

I can see how this is Possible I guess. But only from the perspective that if I did not have any other relationships it couldn't 'complicate' this anymore and could be considered more 'honorable'. But from her perspective (she wants out) and I've heard her say this is a risk/concern of hers (me finding someone else) ..

I guess what I'm saying is.. how could she expect that I wouldn't be trying to figure out what I want just the same as she is? Besides the fact that she's not acting logical now, but we're assuming that if recon is in the picture - she is back to thinking logically.

I know you probably don't have all the answers as this could be specific to the sitch/person - but I'm curious if I'm missing another risk here?

Ultimately, I think I would like this to go unnoticed by my W. I definitely would not be trying to advertise but I am also aware that there is a relatively high risk she will find out. We are both very close with our neighbors so at some point they might be filling her in on the coming and going around my house. Her getting Jealous is one possible positive. Which I think would happen, but I still would prefer her not to know, so I would not set this as a goal/reason.