"In-love".... a phrase that I really feel a lot of ways about. You certainly shouldn't marry or divorce based on such a fleeting feeling.
Originally Posted by AnthonyA
I am completely detached right now.
Wishful thinking.
And then I think about her, some of the things she's seen you do, and I wonder how hard it has to be for her. Of course, that doesn't justify what she's been up to, but I don't think you need to just never respond to her. If you were still in deep pain, then maybe cutting off communication would be worthwhile. But a detached person wouldn't simply stare at someone talking to them and not respond. Now if you aren't responding b/c she's throwing a tantrum then I understand that.
I also wonder where you are at with breaking some of those chemical habits and changing your thinking about some things? I hope you are keeping focused there.
When I say I don't respond, I don't respond to her negativity or texts to me that are to start an argument. I answer her questions as needed and as short as possible. If it is about the kids,I answer, but it it is just a response to tell me something like information, I just don't even say OK on the messages.
Why do people think I have a chemical habit? I have not drank any alcohol or felt the need since Jan 28th. I did that to hang out with people across the street and since my wife was drinking. I have been working out and feeling healthier. I work out every night while the kids are in bed. I am reading, taking care of me. My BIL is my life coach as I call him and he agrees that he can tell a difference in my attitude, and my look out. My IC has said the same thing. I feel better. I am not worried what she does or says to me. Her attitude does not impact me. I am moving on with my life. My children have unfortunately been numb to her since she only visits for a few hours each weekend. She rushed them off to bed last night after only seeing them for a couple hours saying she had a long day and was tired.
