My adventures continue...lol. I finally went out for coffee with Tinder guy. He brought me flowers. It was really sweet. His story is kind of heartbreaking and inspirational all at the same time. He played volleyball as a teenager for the national team and was a firefighter. He was also married and had a couple of kids. Six years ago, he got into a horrific traffic accident. He was in the hospital for 340 days. Had his left leg amputated just below the knee. He also had a brain injury and had to relearn everything which kind of explains the confusing texts he sends sometimes. His wife cheated on him when he was in the hospital so sadly, his marriage ended. He has a lot of pain and I could tell he was in pain for the two blocks that we walked to get coffee even though he tried not to show it. I also think his brain injury has impacted his judgment as he told me he got duped out of $20,000 by someone he met online. He really was a super sweet guy but personality wise, I could tell, injuries or no injuries, we are not a match. He, on the other hand, obviously feels differently as he has texted me a number of times since then and calls me beautiful, etc... I feel like a terrible person for not being attracted to him. Certainly he deserves someone really great. But I need someone who is going to get out in the world with me and not keep me at home. Anyway, I am keeping my texts polite and short...like a friend would. If he asks me out again, I am going to have to tell him it's not in the cards. I really hate hurting people.
Facebook guy and I finally got together. He texted me yesterday that he was coming to my town to try to buy a new hockey stick. We ended up taking our dogs for a walk and spent some time talking. Another short visit... about an hour and a half. We have a lot of laughs together and have not run out of things to talk about. We are both at the same point in our lives...open to finding our "last" relationship but not in a hurry. He thinks it is most important to be really good friends with a partner first so is taking things slow. We are both talking to other people and just figuring things out. I am not even sure if I am physically attracted to him because I am just enjoying the friendship so much my brain hasn't even gone there. It is really nice and refreshing just to have that with no expectations or pressure.
Also been texting with the guy from Bumble. Turns out it is his mom that lives 30 minutes away and he was visiting her at the time. He lives in another province but is hoping to move out here some day. He wants to stay in touch. I'm fine with it. Will meet him next time he is here 'cause you never know...
My STBXH is back on Wednesday. Looking forward to him taking the kids for a few days (single parenting = tired). So funny that he is in Hawaii with his girlfriend and it doesn't even bother me. That would not have been the case a few months ago. This detachment thing is FANTASTIC. I just feel great...lol. Hope all of you on here get there soon!!!
