I am glad that you posted on my thread. I just read your posts. I am glad you have come back and shared your perspective from years down the road. I can relate to a lot of what you posted. Yes, they absolutely affair down! Yes, they often are running to someone that validates them and gives them a false sense of confidence. Also, despite a strong limerance pull towards the A, I still think there are moments of clarity. Or perhaps those WH that suffer tremendous feelings of guilt (as both of ours did) are the ones more likely to return later?
Can you provide an update now? How are things with your current BF? Does your XH continue to pursue you?
From what you have described, he still sounds depressed and rather desperate. He is not coming to you from a place of strength or resolve. The good news is that you are not bound to him by the M, a home or kids. Perhaps he will do some personal work and come back as a more solid man down the road.
I look forward to reading an update!
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
