Her moving out is going to give you some time and space to think about what you want the rest of your life to look like. I also want you to get into the mindset that your sitch will probably not completely play out for many years.
I also want you to know that a D will not necessarily destroy your kids lives. That is mainly going to depend on how you and your W treat and act around one another. The people on this board who have good relationships with their exs the kids are doing well.
Right now you feel powerless in your sitch but that will change I promise you.
