I tried really hard DBing my ass off and every other thing I could do, becoming a new better me. But this person is so determined to get rid of me, it is unavoidable.
It unavoidable for now. That doesn't mean things might be different down the road, but in the short term there is no turning them around, no magic tricks to "wake them up", nothing but just letting events unfold while you give them time and space.
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I give you the following example, which always comes in our fights, for your evaluation. It will show you how biased and skewed their perspectives are.
Yes that is a classic example of "rewriting history". This really is how she sees things right now. She remembers nothing but bad stuff and has forgotten all of the good. Eventually she will remember the good too, but it's going to take her a long time. All you can do is step back and be patient.
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So this week she wanted me to leave the house, had her lawyer try it on me. Forced me to finally get a lawyer which thank God shut them both up pretty good. Their scare tactics failed.
Good! That's great, it's important to protect yourself, especially against a WAS that is firmly in the fog like yours.
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I found artifacts of "magic/voodoo" around the house. Please dont think I am a fool. I surely dont beleive in this stuff but it just convinced me that my wife has really gone into a weird dark place.
I found burnt red candles with needles burning on them. Googling it, she is probably in a rough spot with her affair and trying anything to get him back. Rest assured its not for me. Maddness right?
Upon further inspection I found burnt stuff and cadles/ashes outside my bedroom balcony.!
Whaaaaaaaat? OK now that is something I have not heard on these forums before!
