It wasn't marital therapy - only for co-parenting, Another Stander - but I take your point. He doesn't seem really invested in finding a solution. I agree with you about his anger. I suspect underneath that anger is a whole lot of hurt about feeling unimportant and rejected. And while some of that he's brought on his own head by his behaviour, some of that is fair and reasonable. And I can do what I can to take his views into account and be open to compromise, but if he's not going to tell me what he wants, the chances of him getting it are just about nil.
But I have sent him this list of suggestions and he has the week to think it over. I won't engage in any more absorbing of blame. He can either come up with his own list, and we will meet in the middle, or I will go ahead with mine as I do think there needs to be a bit more structure and boundaries in my parenting. I am prepared to go ahead and parent as I see fit without his co-operation and while we're separated, I don't need his co-operation. I'd prefer to have it, but I don't need it, and whether he gives it or not is down to him.
