I can see that would make anyone insecure. I hope you do get some of that. The uncertainty is very difficult isn't it? I really hope family therapy was useful.
I was just reading back about how you tried to 'force' him to make changes. That is very pursuer-y behaviour... No matter how well intended, to a distancer that comes across as critical and like you will never satisfy the pursuer and never be good enough. Maybe your husband will be like me and experience enough pain for him to want to change without the pressure. I always thought I was open to change and to improving myself before, but I was wrong. I made everything about my husband's bad behaviour without looking at my role in things and in how he experienced my behaviour. I still have a lot to learn I think, probably the rest of my life!
