Hi Blu, thanks for your thoughts. I don't really believe he's having an A, I know that most men do but I don't think he's like most men. I'm not saying he might not have been tempted or even had some inappropriate conversations with someone else, but I don't think he's seeing someone else on a regular basis. I could be wrong, I know. If anything, it's work which is his mistress and [censored] all his time and emotional energy from him. My IC: I've been seeing him since about November last year. He was right to point out that dh's rushing me off last week was suspicious, and maybe now that I've told dh he will be more careful to tell me what he's actually doing rather than leaving me guessing. Last night for instance he texted me to tell me what he was watching on TV. Sunday nights he tends to go dark, but he has always struggled with Sunday nights enormously, if he's seeing someone else on Sunday nights I wouldn't envy her
I feel like he needs a lot of alone time right now to cope with his job and with the whole situation, (he works incredibly long hours, he's at work for 7.30 and doesn't finish till 6.30, he has insomnia so he often goes to bed about 9, he literally only has about 2 hours to himself all day) and I suppose I have to respect that, whilst also pointing out that we need to spend a bit more time together in order to make our connection stronger. He's also running a lot, which is such a total 180 for him. I'm glad he's taking care of himself like that, he needs a healthy way to de-stress. Plus it means we can have something to do together.
Anyway, I am having a nice morning so far, drinking coffee outside enjoying the birdsong and how green things are. Later on I'll go for a run, maybe go to the garden centre to buy a pot plant because dh reminded me yesterday that he'd asked me to do this a while back and I've not had a chance. He's taking the kids to their activity this morning and then taking them out to lunch, it's a shame I'm not there but he'll get a chance to miss me. I did meet my deadline, thanks Alison. The end product was not great but it was supposed to be a draft anyway. I will do some more work today, outdoors enjoying the fresh air. I went to the pub last night and was chatting to some random bloke, I practiced validating when he was telling me about his problems instead of my usual know it all suggesting fixes or playing devils advocate approach. I will keep practicing validating, it's a good skill to have.
