Dealing with a complex MLC and/or Wayward Wife

[joejoe1]

P,

Let go, let go, let go of trying to control your Sitch. Every action you ask us about is about getting a reaction from your WW. It's nothing you can say to change her mind. LBS speaks with actions. Only your actions will give you the best chance to save your M. Only when you completely let go and work on yourself and allow your WW to see a man of self respect and strength will you grow stronger and heal.

You have three weeks to speak with your actions. All the LBS, and I mean all have tried what you are trying. Trying to look and search for the right words or actions to change their spouse mind. Make the right moves, implement the right strategy. You can read, sitch after sitch, which I have, spend days on days searching for an answer in one of the Sitches, and the only things that ever worked was the LBS, working on healing themselves, building self respect, and holding to their boundaries.

Everything we tell you here is for you, and not for you to win your WW back. The constant drum beat from all the Vets will be, detach and work on healing. Let your WW go. No more holding on to her. Losing you is a huge lost, but she must feel it, she must feel it, no faking, really feel, she's losing you or have lost you. It can't be a trick or strategy.

You can't get dressed up to go GAL and then wait around to your WW see you to try and get an reaction. You can't walk pass her room to see if she notice you. You can't call her, and then make up a reason why you called her that don't make any sense. You can't tell her why you are leaving and what will happen to her when you are gone. Because, when a person is done and they have let go, they won't care what what their WS thinks. A person that respect themselves, won't care what other thinks, when they know they are doing the right thing.

It's time to move forward in confidence, strengthening your self-respect, learning to love yourself.

Most LBS ask about the LRT, thinking that it's a last ditch effort to win their spouses back. But, what it truly is, it's a life altering dynamic to change the person you were, to become a person only a fool would leave. It's time to gain space from all the pain and dysfunction to heal. Because the truth is your M can't work without healing. The LRT, is to help the LBS to start the process of working thru all the pain and emotions, the roller coaster. The ups and downs, without having the WW as a distraction. It it will hurt and be painful, down days, depressing moments. There will also be break thru, and growth. On the other side of the pain, is a brand new you. But the only way to get to that person, is thru the pain/process.

TD Jake's says, the only way to get to the success is going g thru the process. And in the process is pain and scarifice. The healing lies on the other side, not in the pain and scarifice, not before the pain and scarifice, only beyond them both. This will be hard work. Buckle up P!

Notice, that I never said the LRT was a process to fix your M! It's a process to fix YOU!!!!!

Onward and upward brotha.