4 years pieced and still a work in progress!

[97Hope]

Hi Blu. Yes, it's crazy how the last people on earth we would ever ask for an opinion are the first with the worst advice ever.

Sadly, my H called an ex-Aunt (his uncles xw) to get her counsel. I don't know what all she told my H, but whatever it was, he sure thought she was wise and decided that she knew stuff about stuff.

I argued (early after the BD) about how she has been D for 25+ years and never remarried, so she would be the last person I'd get M advice from, but I wish I would have handled it better. For myself, there have certainly been opinions about what I 'should' do and a lot of "if my H did that..."...we never know until we are here.

I hope you are able to remember that fear is a liar. You are not alone in that battle. Stay strong and I don't know you but as a fellow DBer I am proud as heck about you standing up for your M. Encouraging.