1. But it sounds like he is saying that for a couple to be happy, there cannot be expectations. That’s what many religions say the key to happiness is right? Eliminating want and desire and ownership?He’s kind of transferring that on to a relationship.
2. It also sounds like he’s saying that a happy relationship requires unconditional love? Right? Thats something that would only work if both partners are capable of it. If one person is and the other one has a personality disorder it becomes unhealthy and abusive. Call me a cynic, but based on my experience here I don’t think That adult love can be unconditional. You have to have the expectation that “my husbands not gonna go out and f random women and expose me to hiv and stds” or that “my wife is not going to steal family funds for drugs while I work and save” ( and based on the stories we read here these actions are not far fetched and out there. ) Those are fair expectations and everyone should be able to expect that their spouse will not abuse them.
Now I haven’t watched part 2. So maybe this is explained further down the line. But that’s my initial thought.
Now regarding gratitude over things that are not in the extreme - like not expecting lunch to made for you certainly makes sense.
