thanks Steve, don't worry I will not make any decisions based on emotion. I was just thinking out loud and trying to make sense of H's conflicting messages to me. If he keeps saying stuff about babies, I will come right out and tell him the stuff you suggested. We actually had this discussion a few months ago, H and I both agreed that it wouldn't be fair to the baby unless we were together. But back then he was adamant about us NOT having one. Now he is making hints.....
I guess I am just frustrated at the lack of a decision on his part. So many things are happening to bring us closer together. Yet he refuses to be honest with OW, thus prolonging their relationship. He knows she will break up with him if she finds out the truth. He knows that it is INEVITABLE that she will eventually find out, yet he won't end things now. He doesn't understand that the longer he keeps this going, the harder it will be for everyone....
I know he needs a wake up call, but I am not sure what it will be, or if it will come from me....
