Persistent Endurance (Part 2)

[97Hope]

I've heard most of those on the list. In addition to "You don't even know me".."I knew it was a mistake when we got married" and my favorite "I don't want a divorce but I the idea of being married to you anymore is impossible"

It's almost, almost! refreshing to hear the same lines from every WAS/MLC spouse because it kind of helps me realize that it's not just me. I hope that doesn't sound awful but just after BD I thought I was crazy.

I've come to realize, too, that when they talk about the problems, it's a continual moving target. What irritates you about them today, will be something different tomorrow.

To be fair, I lost my head in 2005 and really truly thought I had feeling for another man. I would give anything to not have done that back then. We both went out and dated and it was a nightmare. Looking back, I can see that it wasn't my H. It was alllll me.

Don't know if it helps, but I speak from experience in that the OM disgusts me when I think back on that time in my life, but not near as much as I disgust myself for doing that.

Take care.