I was reading my journal reflecting on all of W’s catch phrases since BD, here is a compilation that I’m sure many of you have heard, and warning for others, when dealing with the MLC/WW (listed in chronological order):
“I’m not sure we have a starting place to go back to” “I stepped back to observe us and everything started to crystallize” “This whole situation thing makes me sad” “You have to give yourself time too” “I will be happier if you are out of my life” “Kids are resilient” “I thought about saying no when you asked me to marry you” “I only said yes because I thought that was what family and friends expected of me” “Separation is the only way I could possibly think differently about you” “It’s time for me to be selfish” “Don’t touch me” “I’m not attracted to you” “I don’t even like the way you smell” “I feel trapped, like you’re backing me into a corner” “Stop being noble by trying to hold on” “I don’t have regret over the OM, so I don’t care if you heal” “Don’t trust me!” “It’s too late, I have no feelings left for you to try and continue” “I can’t give you what you want” “I don’t need you” “I want a divorce” “I’m going to call a lawyer to discuss my options” “I’ll just have to fake it” “I’m not getting any younger and feel like I’m missing out on life” “My mother died young and I don’t know how much time I have left” “It’s not you, I’m broken” “Separation doesn’t mean it’s necessarily over for us” “I just don’t feel it right now, I’m wasting time, I’m convinced those feelings won’t return.” “I promise not to see OM, but will not break off all contact with him” “My skin crawls and anxiety skyrockets around you” “I feel nothing for you, I’m not angry, I’m just indifferent” “I don’t have any love left for you” “I don’t know what to do, I’m so confused” “I deleted everything associated with OM from my phone” “I might be a bad person, but I don’t intentionally try to hurt people” “A smart girl always has a backup plan” “I want my freedom, I don’t want to have to answer to anyone” “I just want to be single” “Just let me go” “I can’t see the forest for the trees” “Let’s not get ahead of ourselves” “Our marriage is only legal and doesn’t mean anything” “I am moving out and have no intentions of coming back” “You didn’t treat me right and didn’t make me feel loved” “I don’t think I ever loved you” “I know what I’m doing is unethical and immoral, but you are the cause” “This is who I really am”
Me:41 W:39 S:9 D:6 T:20 M:16 PA:8/22/18, BD:11/6/18 PA discovery & IHS:12/3/18, W moves:4/2/19 R’ville:9/27/19, I give D docs:3/1/20 W home:4/5/20 (due to CV-19), W NC w/OM:4/13/20 6/1/20