Gekko - The last dialogue sounds peaceful. For me, I have been through years of fighting with my ex, then divorce with my ex, battle with my attorneys, and I didn’t want more banter just for banters sake. At this point in my life it’s not fun and endearing to me.
I’m not good at quick come backs like you or it might have been different. I also need to think the comment over to see if I am being fair or unfair before I respond. like I’m careful to not just snap back. And I think that’s something that i picked up from divorce busting - but maybe too much in the oppposite extreme of what’s healthy.
I have more of a quieter or maybe a daydreamer personality where I’m not really even paying attention to someone that missed a parking spot. It doesn’t register to me as something to even bring up. So when he would comment on things like that, I was just surprised it even bothered him. I was surprised it invoked anger and frustration when to me it’s not really a big deal. I don’t want to be someone that annoys my partner.
My friends were surprised at his comments too and they are more of the loud say it like it is type. So I don’t think it’s me being completely on one scale of the sensitivity spectrum.
Anyway, as the days go on I do feel good about my decision. I’m certainly not ready to get back out there and date but I still want to find someone I can connect with. This time, I will do things different. Not get exclusive with someone so quick. Date a bit. Not try to conform to someone that might not be a good fit.
