KML - Thanks for the suggestions. Both my sons are ADHD and on meds. Living with me full time might help, but I don't know if S16 would go for that. S13 might. That's a big decision and I need to weigh things carefully. S16 gets periodic bloodwork to check medication levels - wouldn't any drugs come up in that?
Doodler - Thanks for confirming my approach. Has your XW mellowed yet? Is that even a realistic expectation?
J9 - That's very interesting about the ones that come on really strong. How do you know they were rebounding?
Last night I had dinner with S13. S16 was sick and stayed at his mom's house. Numerous times, S13 mentioned how much he missed me, and he told me he cries at his mom's house often. He said the only thing he wants in life is for me and his mom to get back together. After dinner, it took me 7 minutes to get him to be willing to leave my car, saying he didn't want to go and crying. It made me cry too. It breaks my heart. It makes me angry.
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
