I want you to know that I agree with sinjin. You are one h*** of a woman. ( I mean that as a good thing). I don't know how you do it. Even when I haven't had time to post to the board, I would check out you posts to help keep my strenth up. Just knowint that you are being a strong as you are has helped me.
I think that setting donw and talking about all the things that will change if yall go though the big D. Is a good ideal. It will show H what will change and maybe help you get a gameplan to fall on just in case.
I know one of the things that made me feal better, was setting down and making a budjet and seeing that I can make it on my own if I have to. (granted I don't have kids, and I am thinkful for that right now, because I wouldn't want them to go though this pain) But I was still scarad that I couldn't do it. But by working it out and knowing that it is possible has helped make me feal stronger as a person. I feel less dependant on H.
Maybe working on what would have to be changed if one of you left will make H see the whole picture right now. But it is also a gamble because he might see that he could make it on his own. (Kinda of like I did) And deciede to go on his own.
It is something that you have to really think on.
Keep up the great job. It is very encouring to me and others.
