Ex: I'm have female friend that I'm connecting with now who is also going through divorce. We are very open that we really don't want/need to have a relationship. But clearly we are making a connection based on what we have in common. I can see something happening. I/we would need to be open with each other, but my point is.. no matter who/how/when there is a next relationship it is most likely a rebound relationship anyway. So I"m wondering why it is such a cardinal rule to completely avoid in this situation? And not continue living my life on that front as well?
Well, because you are still very wrecked emotionally. You are not in a healthy place to start a new R. In the end we just offer advice here, it's up to you whether to take it or not. So it's your choice. But I will say that I jumped into a new R a year after BD thinking I was ready, but man I was not even close. It was emotionally upsetting and draining. DB'ing is as much about your own personal recovery and rebuilding as it is about saving your M. Work on yourself first, then work on a new R, whether that's with your W or someone else.
