I read your thread all the time....girl I swear I don't know how you do it. This guy must have some kind of redeeming quality you don't talk much about, because you bend over backwards for him.
How you continue to do everything to facilitate his R with the OW amazes me. He gets to hide it from anyone who would shame him for it, and gets to look like a family man too.
I am a guy. I actually get kinda angry when I read what he is doing to you. His indecisiveness kills me. His need for constant reassurance from you tells me he isn't very secure period. You alluded to his meds, maybe something to do with that.
I guess I just wanted to tell you that I admire your ability to slog through all of this. There aren't very many posters here that write so many details, and for some reason I can really feel your sitch. You are an amazing woman.