Those are great answers and I am in agreement. Most issues do not have clear cut black and white answers to them.
I brought those questions up because i do notice a level of hypocrisy in myself. I hate my ex, I get so angry at the people here that cheated and lied and manipulated the LBS. Yet, I know people and continue to engage with people that make some pretty crappy moral choices. It’s not because I worry I will be influenced by them (I know I won’t). It’s because they are fun to hang out with once in a while. I never get close to them though.
When it comes to having a partner, I would prefer a partner that chooses the right thing because that’s who they are. Not a choice they are making based on what’s ok socially. Like I would want my husband to not cheat because he cares about me and my safety and my feelings and because he gave me his word. Not because he worries that his friends or family will find out and shun him.
I don’t socially boycott either. I understand the collective power that comes from it. And i love that it can have an effect, but i guess I am hypocritical in that sense as well. Pendulums swing and social regulation can one day take on a cause that might be opposite to my own beliefs.
