She's wanting to hug every now and then, and in general she is acting 'normal'. Maybe I answered my own question.. Even if not on purpose..its probably still a form of cake eating. As she still loves me but sees me as option B instead of option A.
Yep she's cake eating. The quicker you display through actions that you are not anybody's fuching Plan B the quicker this may turn around. Picture her walking a tight rope and you removing the net underneath.
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Admittedly we are here because she was not happy, and I have a lot to do with that, but not as much as she has to do with being responsible for her own happiness
Yep. But unfortunately she has to figure that out on her own.
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I believe she's very confused right on on what she wants.
I disagree. I don't think she is confused at all. She knows what she wants right now. Can that change down the road?Absolutely.
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I'm not convinced she's going to enjoy 'girls gone wild' at 45 with 2 young kids for very long. So it feels like her awaking is not far away.
From what I read it typically takes 18 to 24 months minimum for that to happen.
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In my gut it feels like she will be back. A couple of falls in fantasy land and she'll realize.
I said the same thing. I am 8 months in and though my ex is starting to show cracks in the foundation she has not tried to reconcile.
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I have turned off ALL access to any snooping as of yesterday. It's done. Met with IC yesterday and going to be working on exercises from No More Mr. Nice Guy. Finished that book 2 days ago and I felt like I was reading a book about myself... got some work to-do but at least I know where to focus now.
This is all good stuff! You are heading in the right direction.
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Thanks for contributing to me and my thread, and thanks for listening.
