Hi Love, i have never posted on your thread before and I am kind of new to this but I did read most of your thread and I just had to say something to you and I hope that you do not take offense to this at all.
This is just my opinion but I think that you should stop ML with your H. He needs to see what eh will really be missing out on if he decides to continue with OW and leave you. Right now he has nothing to lose, just as my H has nothing to lose. He gets to come and go as he pleases, does not have any household responsibilities, does not have to tell you where he is or who he is with or when he will come home and he can get jealous thinking that you might be with another man and get mad. Then he can come home to you and be sweet and loving and kiss and hg you and ML to you. Why would he want to leave and be the one to end it? He has the best of both worlds right now.
He continuosly asks you the same questions over and over again, I personally would get tired of them and as kitkat said I would start telling him that you have already had these discussions with him and answered these questions and all of yor answers still remain the same.
You need to start doing more for you. Go out and have a good time where you know he will not be, don't come home a couple of nights and when he asks where you are say something like Oh I was with friends and I wasn't up to coming home. Make him wonder.
As far as the depression goes, I 100% believe that this has a part if not a big part in how he is feeling, my H is the same way. One of the signs of depression is indecisiveness, not being able to make up your mind and I see that in my H and in yours not to mention you are not giving him any reason at all to make a decision on what he wants. YOu can read my current sitch at, if this link does not work I in Newcomers under He wants to leave but now what. My current sitch
