For those that like to occupy themselves during trying times with a book that helps them in their individual sitchs. I have found and am about 3/4 of the way through a very interesting and what I believe will be very helpful book call: Never Split The Difference-Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It, by Chris Voss. Voss was top FBI hostage negotiator and besides who doesn't sometimes feel like the stranger that they married has at times taken their life hostage? lol Through stories of actual negotiations with everything from terrorists to domestic partners, he explains how to de-escalate and get the other person to team up on solutions. Very interesting stuff. As well as entertaining. It is not manipulative, IMO, not any more than any other principle in DB. They are simply tools and techniques to navigate sometimes tense and combative moments. Check out some of his videos where he touches on some of the techniques.
Anyway, I just wanted to share for those looking to expand their toolbox.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
