You handled it perfectly. Nothing wrong with telling him it doesn't work for you. He's noticing you are getting fed with his BS and he doesn't like it.
Thanks LH19. I’m glad to hear you think I handled it well. Sometimes emotions get high. However during the conversation I remained calm. I even had to remind myself to be calm. At one point he asked if I was upset with him. I said no and then I went on to validate his reasons for why he feels this is a good idea for him.
And...I’m beyond getting fed up with his B.S. it’s one thing after another. But if he feels like he needs to go and that will make him happier...so be it. But again, I refuse to put my life on hold while he runs across country.
I mean even his IC advised him not to look for a job in another state. He told him that running won’t fix his problems. He told him that’s not the solution and won’t help him. But true to his form my H can’t listen to anyone. He’s dead set on blowing his life up. So fine...let him blow it up. But I won’t be around to help him pick up the pieces.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
