thanks for the advice kitkat, we didn't actually end up having the talk. H's mom didn't come home till very late, so we had to stay with our son and couldn't be alone.
He seemed less angry yesterday and it was almost like old times (almost).
Anyways, this talk we are supposed to have is to decide what we are going to do now. Originally we said we would separate (still live in the same house), but we would pretend to everyone else that all was okay. Until after my brothers wedding. Then we were supposed to tell everyone we were separated and make some more decisions - ie, maybe changing our living or financial arrangements. During that time we were not supposed to sleep together or ML or do any 'couple' things. H had also mentioned that 'anything' could happen during those months, although he didn't want to get my hopes up.
Well the wedding was a month ago, and H has been stalling on the talk. I am not pushing it cause as far as I am concerned I am not moving out or changing anything. If he wants us to actually live separately then HE can leave. Also, the 'separation rules' were never enforced. He still wanted to ML, sleep with me, and we went out many many times for dinner, drinks etc...The day after the wedding he asked me if I was going to tell my family, I said no because of my mother's health, but that he could go ahead and tell his side. He never did....
I am not getting my hopes up for this talk, actually the opposite. I am preparing myself for the chance that he may actually decide to move out, or that we stop all physical contact etc... I know this will be hard for me, but I just need to remind myself that it might be a good thing too. It might force H to realize what life without me as his wife would be....
We haven't said when we will talk, but maybe tonight. I will keep you updated...
