[DonH]

My ex husband told me I was critical and negative and verbally abusive. I cringe at the thought that I could have been like ex boyfriend. If that’s the case, this is my Karma. But with my ex husband the things I complained about was more about his sleeping till 3 and money and him being late. I didn’t make jabs like that over small things. But I don’t know if ex was gaslighting me..perhaps doing things he knew I would complain about and then using it as an excuse to break up with me or if so was really as bad as ex bf to him.

Hmmmmm so being late was worthy of criticism but not packing enough cups or driving habits are not? I sort of see them as at the same level. Not trying to be critical and I do not think you are getting carma back but have to careful of thinking it's okay to be critical when it's things that matter to you. Perhaps the cups mattered as much to him as being late mattered to you? Do you see what I mean?

Now, him complaining so he had a reason to break up with you. Where did that come from? Do you think he wanted to break up with you? You must, otherwise why did you say that? What makes you think he wanted to break up with you?

What I'm really curious about is, have you heard from him at all? I don't know why but I would think that you would by now. Have you? If not, that might make me consider he might be okay that this has ended and perhaps he was maybe picky so you'd break up with him. Perhaps thats more of what you meant?