Something there is that doesn't love a wall...

[peacetoday]

Do you think he would be willing to go to one counseling session maybe with the idea of Co parenting?

Maybe wait to act on this until you get some suggestions here

In reality when the time is right and you can put the words together- I wonder if there is a way to let him talk
about what he is thinking without suggesting any direction

let him just tell you again what he is thinking while you say nothing and stay neutral

then maybe you will have a clearer path to follow-and you may have to make the hard choice without him
especially if you don't want to stay in limbo

Is there a reason you have get out of limbo now?
or would a little more time benefit the situation
only you can know-

But to get out to try to get rid of the pain- wont help
work through the anxiety of not knowing first -then rethink it


Also I am sorry for your son--I have heard similar complaints as of lately that my son 17 feels abandoned, unloved- ect
I see it as a good sign that he can clearly see/express and feel his pain


I just listen validate and confirm I am also here

I also see my son making good choices and great direction and path for his life so his expressing does not concern me

remember you did not fail him- no- you have shown your kids courage strength an dstability and forgiveness

We took the road we thought best by M them
We had no way to know, this would be the outcome-
and maybe this way was lightened by our H being gone-
It could have been worse perhaps if they stayed-

hang in