Hey guys, I could use some help here. Major, big time help.
I think it is time to ask OD directly why he displays so much ambivalence about bringing things to a close and asking if there is anything I can do to make it easier for him to do so (he is now not responding to me about wanting to meet to discuss putting the house on the market). Or maybe being more direct than that.
Job, you suggested asking him after our talk in December if he wants to come home. I'm rather regretting I didn't do that. I took a middle of the road thing. I think if I ask him that question he will either admit he does (or at least it will result in an actual conversation about moving in some direction) or he will realize in that moment that he doesn't want to, and may be willing to move forward with wrapping things up. I just think he is stuck, stuck, stuck. I would preface the conversation by saying that I was approaching him with an open and forgiving heart and that I have had time to heal and feel strong. I would again reiterate that I bear him no ill will and that I understand better than he thinks why he has made the choices he has.
I've done it all. I've DBed, not DBed, I've showed my willingness to move forward with divorce, I've left him alone to work this out for himself. Nothing is working. I am sitting here having my life, and that of my kids, controlled by his inactions and I no longer choose to remain in limbo.
I am fine with whatever the outcome is here. I just need it to go somewhere.
