Dealing with a complex MLC and/or Wayward Wife

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Thanks LH. I think you suggestion make sense. No need to rush, it doesn't really make a difference and I probably have some incentive to try and hurt her with the information (guilt) and no matter how she responds it will never feel as good as I think..

Question: based on the current sitch.. how should my communication/relationship be with her? Obviously, I'm hurting like hell inside (some of it deserved anger) but because she continues to be nice and make some moves 'towards' me. Do I mirror her? Of course I do not pursue - but should I continue to be 'distant' but polite? Or do I soften as she softens. Really weird trying to manage this - considering she does't know I know and/or doesn't really feel that much guilt for what is hurting me.. IT would be easier if she was rude and distant to me like other sitches...