AS, she hasn’t considered herself married in 4 months. She has shown this in her words and actions. As the LBH, it is so easy to view the WW for what she was and not what she is now. I think it is causes less pain for us in that respect because we like to cling to hope that our loving W will return.
Yup you are quite correct on that! And I am most certainly not defending her actions. She IS married, and her behavior as a married woman who swore an oath to her husband is disgusting and reprehensible. I'm just saying that in her foggy wayward mind she has convinced herself that what she is doing it OK.
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I will read TXHubby’s story.
Steve is a great DB'er and his story is an excellent read too, he had one of the fastest turnarounds of anyone here. I point you to TXHubby though because his W was really, really far gone like yours is. Like to a point that it looked like there was no return. I have a friend whose W was like that too, she went wayward and decided she was done. She was super angry and spewing and ran off and shacked up with an OM. They sold their home, sold their business, split things up and he didn't talk to her at all for nearly 2 years. That's how long it took for her to come out of her fog and start missing him again. They started talking, then going out, now they are reconciled and very happy together (it's been 4 or 5 years I think). He didn't know a thing about DB'ing, but he knew enough not to beg/ plead/ negotiate and instead just let her go.
