Attracting the WW back ?

[gzabetas]

AnotherStander, wow, thanks for such a detailed and well thought post.

So many nuggets of wisdom in your post. I agree with all of it.
Like you said I don't think its the age thing either since I am pretty sure the new guy is my age.

I am so glad you wrote of the typical nature of H working on projects and the wife holding it against him.
I am not glad that it happens to others, but its good to know I am not the exception.

Guilty on not noticing her emotional bank depleting. Now I see it clear as day.
You are right in that she isnt faking her re-writing history. But I do remember us laughing, and going out.
She even said that she saw me as a great friend recently. That hurt. I was demoted.. sexually.
It was the raw masculine energy that she wanted, with a confident male, not worrying about a thing.

And here I am in the midst of the Greek crisis, hearing news of home foreclosures, unemployed etc;
I should have been a better captain in this storm.
You see our relationship coincided with the entirety of the Greek crisis. I always had faith, things will get better, I will get a job eventually. But we were always dropping. Still are in fact, with no bottom to be found.


Really, all your comments I should print and carry with me as they are spot on.

And I also agree that the work I do is for myself.

The one catch-22 in my working on myself is this:
Now there is no way I can be that attention giver, hugging and loving husband she wanted cause it will be seen as a ploy. So I sit here, detaching, and getting further away...

Some kind of guy my replacement was though. Lets not forget the OM's contributions to our woes.
He has his own wife at home who is having her issues with him (from what I hear) and he consoles my wife to get some. Why doesnt he work on his own family.
The way I was raised, I never hit on another man;s woman. We may have been demoted lately as a species, but darn it some values we still hold as men.