Hi Loveforever, I wish I had some great advice for you. I'm actually in the same spot with my H. I thought we were actually making some progress over the last month...spending more time together, having fun, ML more...but since I told him about me being pregnant, he has pretty much gone dark on me. He was somewhat supportive when I first told him, but I think now that it has sunk in he is resentful...thinks I did this on purpose to trap him and is afraid the OW will find out about it and she'll be livid.
He told me last week that OW is seeing someone else at work, and it is really hard on him. He's said that before so I don't know if it is true or if she is just playing games with him. But he did tell me he loves her and he is afraid that if he comes home to me, he will always regret leaving her. Ouch.
I've been DBing faithfully for almost a year now, but I'm finding myself listening more to friends telling me he is not capable of changing and that I should go on with my life and have the new baby without him. I'm torn...I want to give him time to work through this, but part of me agrees with them and doesn't think he is strong enough to do what it will take to make things better between us. I think he is thinking there would be too much work involved in fixing this relationship, so he'd rather just cut his losses and move on.
I think you've done a great job so far of DBing and answering your H's questions. As long as he is still living with you and you seem like you spend a lot of quality time together, I'd say continue doing what you're doing. You've made progress over the last few months.
