I'm familiar with what you mean about the self-serving piece. Most of the people in my life...we have a deep rooted need to be "right". I just grew up on a family where we all had to give our opinions on every topic - maybe those conversations were our ways of bonding? Showing we care? when I'm with my family we all are happy with this dynamic. It feels natural to me, as if that's how communication should happen.
But I could see how others in my life would find this undesireable if I am constantly advising what they should do.
So I guess that's the piece I need to be particularly aware of as I move forward in listening to people in my life. It's a really good focus for me.
