Curtis, basically what you have is a woman who no longer considers herself married to you. She feels that she can behave however she wants with whoever she wants whenever she wants and it is none of your business. The extent of your involvement in her life is how much she can take advantage of you to help pay the bills or babysit. You are so caught up in the post-BD fog that you actually think this is someone you want to reconcile with. You need to hear and understand this- YOUR OLD W IS GONE.
As for your question, read TXHubby's threads.
AS, she hasn’t considered herself married in 4 months. She has shown this in her words and actions. As the LBH, it is so easy to view the WW for what she was and not what she is now. I think it is causes less pain for us in that respect because we like to cling to hope that our loving W will return.
I see that she has so much farther to fall before she could possibly realize what she is losing.
I will read TXHubby’s story.
Me:41 W:39 S:9 D:6 T:20 M:16 PA:8/22/18, BD:11/6/18 PA discovery & IHS:12/3/18, W moves:4/2/19 R’ville:9/27/19, I give D docs:3/1/20 W home:4/5/20 (due to CV-19), W NC w/OM:4/13/20 6/1/20
